Grooms Speeches Rules – Keep It Tight, Guys!
I am forever grateful to Tom, my best man for introducing me to the resources on the internet while in preparation of the grooms speeches. I am sure without these resources, I would not have been able to pull it off.
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One thing I have learned in this wedding speech preparation…it is easy to give a groom wedding speech for half an hour. What is difficult is to condense that half hour into 10 mins and still manage to convey all that you had set out to do.
There are certain rules that I adhere to as the day approaches. It helps me to keep on track what I had aim to do in the 1st place – giving a memorable wedding speech. You can use this as a type of guideline. Take what you will help you….discard the rest. As for me, these points was really a help to me.
Normally, the grooms speech is the second one. He responds to the toast made by the father of the bride and proposes his own wedding toasts to the bridesmaids.
These are the rules I try to follow for the wedding speech:
- Thank everyone that is involved in the setting up of the wedding.
- Do it in an entertaining, sincere but also amusing way…this need practice, though.
- Keep the groom wedding speech short and sweet. Ten mins max. Approximately 1000 words at a normal speed of 110 words per min.
- Make it clear that you are also speaking on behalf of the bride…unless your wife-to-be has her own bride speech to give.
- The groom speech should be sincere and should also be entertaining and contain a liberal number of humorous remarks.
- Have your own personality with your groom speeches. For example, you may want to touch on your 1st impressions of your bride. Or you can prepare a personal message from you to her.
- Learn the opening lines of your groom wedding speech by heart. Though there is no shame in reading the remainder word for word, remember to now and then look up and make eye contact with the audience.
- Take a deep breath and take your time in delivering your wedding speech. Make sure that your voice is loud enough to be heard by everyone.
These guidelines on the grooms speeches that I compiled from various sources have helped me plenty.
Click here for one of the resources that I use…..
Good luck on your preparation of your own groom wedding speeches.
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Grooms Speeches Lines – Some Classics But Be Careful
I have reached the point where my grooms speeches was 50% completed…well at least the base ingredients was already in place. Thanks to the template guidebook.
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It is time to spice up the grooms speech a little by adding some witty lines into the groom wedding speech. I did not want to bore the audience to death…I had to make sure.
The potential risk of using some of these witty lines is that your audience may not understand the wit…so no laughter. Ever seen a comedian who makes jokes and no one laughs because it was either a bad joke or the audience did not catch it? Ouch!!
The other risk involve the possibilty of offending or embarassing someone in the crowd with the groom wedding speeches. It helps to know your listeners and in my case I was quite comfortable with my friends and so are they with me.
My advice? Tread carefully with your wedding speeches but more importantly be yourself. If you are not comfortable using these lines in your groom speeches, then don’t. But give it try if you want. It will definitely make your groom speech more interesting and light hearted. Know your audience and you should be okay.
I have found many interesting lines that you can add to your own wedding speech and below are some of my favourites. I hope you may find them “witty” as well (I must confess that it is kind of subjective,though)
1. I’d like to thank the Reverend Grey for the great job he did today at the church. I learned something new during the vows that I hadn’t realised before: that it’s ok to have sixteen wives…four (for) better, four (for) worse, four (for) richer and four (for) poorer. So I appreciate that teaching…..
2. When it comes to talking about my bride’s good points, where do I start? She’s intelligent, generous, hard working, popular and a brilliant judge of character (ahem)…..
3. There are two people not yet mentioned, but without whom I wouldn’t be here. No, I don’t mean the best man and the taxi driver, but my parents, the most wonderful mum and dad in the world….
4. Good afternoon Ladies and Gentlemen. I must say, it’s funny how history repeats itself. Twenty-four years ago, Amy’s mum and dad were sending their beautiful daughter to bed with a dummy – and here we are again today….
5. This is my favourite….I’ve heard a few people comment on how trim I am looking in this suit, which is actually the result of a fitness regime that’s seen me do at least 50 push-ups a day during the run up to this wedding. But I should mention that none of them have actually been intentional – I’ve just been collapsing a lot through nerves and stress….
With some of these grooms speeches lines, I hope that you are able to improve on your own groom wedding speech. But remember, use it suitably and practise it well so that they come across naturally to your wedding guests.
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Preparing Grooms Speeches – What I Find Helpful
In my quest to come up with the best grooms speeches that I could present, I have come across many resources; some more useful than others. When it comes to advice, there were plentiful…some from friends and others from relatives. All offer some good points on the wedding speech that I took note of.
My best friend pointed me to the internet to source for good examples or guides to presenting a good groom wedding speech. I tried using groom speeches examples as a base but did not work out for me. You can check out my previous entry HERE to find out why these wedding speeches examples was not suitable for me.
Finally, after all my “research” work, what actually work for me is the format that is called template type. This is a sort of fill-in-the-blanks type of format. The template is already given and by using this template, I started to fill in the blanks with the notes that I had jotted down earlier. I find that by doing it this way, I had much better control as to what goes onto the groom wedding speech sheets. The template acts like a guide and funnel. The main materials still have to come from me, which is fine. The finished grooms speech shows much more of my personality which is what I like about this format of wedding speech.
Remember I had a bunch of notes jotted down in my note book as elements that I wanted included in the groom speech? Well, the template is made in such a way that allows me to incorporate most of these gems into my wedding speech without compromising on other aspects of the speech.
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Conclusion
What I want to point out are help that works for me in the preparation of my grooms speeches. I want to help those of you who do not want to spend too much time on the net doing the research work. Just follow what I do and you would not be disappointed.
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Bride and Groom Speeches – Make Sure They Complement Each Other
In my preparation of my groom wedding speech, I actually learned the lesson above the hard way and that is why I want you to avoid the same mistake.
One of the earliest decision that you must make is to decide whether your bride will be giving a bride speech as well. There is no hard and fast rule here. I have been to weddings where the groom is the only one that gives the grooms speech as he speaks on behalf of the bride as well. There are others where the bride and the groom each have their wedding speeches.
Whatever that has been decided, it would be best then to sit down together and brainstorm on the topics that both of you want to cover in your wedding speeches. Discuss the ideas of the bride and grooms wedding speeches and list them down together.
After that is done, you would have 2 choices.
The first is to split the topics between yourselves so that each one of you covers different topics in your wedding speech. This is to make sure that your topics are NOT repetitive.
The other choice is for both of you to cover some common topics but each have a slightly different angle to it. I have seen that work well too as they seem to complement each other. Sometimes the bride speeches can be an eye-opener as well.
As I mentioned earlier, the important reason for doing this to make sure that the groom speech and the bride speech are not repeating the other.
My only advice to you is to work on this wedding speeches early and you will be richly rewarded for your effort.
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Grooms Speeches Examples – Are They A Waste Of Time?
In preparing my grooms speeches, I have come across many resources on the net, one of which is groom speeches examples. They are full blown blown groom speeches that you can use either as they are or you can make changes to them as you deem fit.
This article is to highlight my experience using these groom speeches examples.
What I have on hand is a note that is filled with the topics that I want to share with the wedding guests in my wedding speech. what I need to do next is to find a format to put them all in.
I came across a number of groom speeches examples that look cool and after shortlisting a few them, decided to use one as the “base” groom speech. Then looking through my list, I started inserting my topics into this base.
It was not easy. I felt as if I was trying to put in square pegs into round holes. I did manage to finish the exercise. What I did next was to read it aloud and boy! Was I dissappointed! This groom speech sounded foreign, impersonal and rigid. It did not sound as if I was the one who have written it.
I decided then that it was not the way I wanted to prepare this important speech. So, I ditched it.
Conclusion
Grooms Speeches Examples do not work for me. I find them too rigid and impersonal. I felt that I need to share this with you so that you need not “waste time” looking for such examples on the net. But again, it may work for some. For me, these examples are well, JUST examples. It did give me some ideas on how I should structure my groom speech or add in some topics that I may have forgotten about.
I did find something more practical and flexible which became my base of my groom speech. So, if you are in the midst of preparing your grooms speeches, you may be interested to find out what worked for me.
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Preparing Grooms Speeches – You Will Regret If You Do Not Plan Ahead
“Hey, it is not so difficult to prepare grooms speeches. Is it not just a list of saying thank yous!!”
If that is what you are thinking, you may seriously be mistaken. That being the case, then for your own good, you must read on.
Hi, my name is Aaron Jameson. I got married to my lovely wife Amy approximately one month ago in Florida. It was the best day of my life and I had the most wonderful time.
It would not have been so if I had not prepared well for my groom wedding speech. I am really glad that I did but all could have gone wrong if I had not made some “wise” decisions.
That is why I started this site….to share my experience of this matter of the groom speeches with you all so that you can learn from them too.
I did think that it was not such a big deal preparing groom wedding speeches and I put it on my “to do” list when the wedding preparation got on the way. But then the wedding speech went to my “to think” list not long after that when so many things took priorities.
When the time came for me to really sit down and prepare the grooms speech, I had some many thoughts running through my mind that it was as if I was floating in the sea.
That was when I started to write down anything that came to my mind at that time. There are stuff such as when I met my wife and under what circumstances that we met, the wonderful things that we did together and so on. A small piece of advice. Don’t worry about the arrangements or the language of your wedding speech at this time. You can work on it later. Just jot down what seems precious to you.
One good thing that came out from this exercise was that I have more than enough materials for more than one wedding speeches…enough to even write the bride speech!! Now the challenge was to select the right topics to talk about to ensure that they are can all fit into a 5 minute groom speech.
In conclusion, PLAN EARLY. Never leave your grooms speeches to chance or your ability to give an impromtu speech. Though it is a short speech, the groom speech will be one of the most important speeches that you will be delivering.
For me, at least I got over the first hurdle of preparing my grooms speech. You will do well too if you prepare early and remember to write down the salient points you want to share with your wedding guests in your wedding speech.
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